Welcome to The Quiet Rich, the #1 email for a quiet mind and a rich life. Today, I’m giving you the 3 tips to be “magnetic” (in business and personal relationships).

CONTEXT

I can't stop thinking about this quote:

"You think you’re an introvert because you like being alone. But in reality you just love being at peace. And you’re actually extroverted around people who bring you peace.” — Zachary Laid

So good, right?

I do consider myself introverted. But I’d argue everyone loves “being at peace.” It’s like we’re drawn (by a magnetic pull) to the people who do that for us. Here are 5 easy “tests” to find the people who bring you peace, btw. I got a ton of kind comments on that LinkedIn post.

We've all met those people who just have it. An aura. They walk into a room and everyone wants to talk to them. Not because they're the loudest or the funniest. But because of how they make you feel when you're around them.

Being magnetic isn't about impressing people. It's about making others feel something much more specific: Understood. Heard. And Seen.

And the best part? Anyone can become a people magnet. It's a skill you can learn.

Here are 3 tiny ways to be magnetic (that you can steal):

THE METHOD

☝️ 1. Ask at least 2 questions before giving your opinion

Most people listen just long enough to form their response. Then they wait for their turn to speak.

Don't be most people.

The next time someone shares something with you, ask two follow-up questions before you offer an opinion. This shows the other person that you're actually interested, not just waiting for your turn to talk.

Try: "Tell me more about that." Or: "What made you feel that way?"

This simple shift makes them feel understood.

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✌️ 2. Repeat back something they said

This is a technique I learned from hostage negotiators. (Yes, really.)

When someone shares something important, reflect it back to them using their own words. "So what I'm hearing is [x]." Or: "I appreciate that you mentioned [x]."

This does two things: First, it confirms you were actually listening. Second, it creates a moment where they feel truly heard.

And when people feel heard? They're way more likely to trust you and agree with the next thing you say.

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🤟 3. Put away distractions

Phone off the table. Laptop closed. Earbuds out. Before you eye-roll at how obvious this is, hear me out. 😂

Last week, I grabbed coffee with a friend. She sat at our table and put her phone face-down (normal move— still technically accessible but respectful of our conversation). About 15 minutes in, it buzzed. She glanced at it. Then again. Then apologized and responded to a text.

Of course I didn't say anything. But that tiny interruption broke our flow. Whenever a phone is physically present (even face-down), everyone at the table is subconsciously “waiting” for it to interrupt them.

When you give your full, undivided attention? It gets noticed. Because in a world of constant distraction, your attention is the most valuable thing you can give someone.

This makes them feel seen.

WHY IT WORKS

Maya Angelou said it best:

"People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

At the end of the day, everyone wants to feel understood, heard, and seen.

You might be surprised by how magnetic you become when you make others feel like the most important person in the room.

👉 Forward this email to someone who you think is a people magnet.

Until next week,

Jade

P.S. Sending a warm welcome to the newest Archimedes members! Welcome to DAY ONE. ❤️ This cohort is so inspiring (including founders, executive coaches, tech executives, keynote speakers, even bestselling authors). Can’t wait to meet you all in our first coaching session tomorrow.

Missed the deadline to join this one? Good news. You can join the next cohort in November! We’re only opening that one up to a small number of people. If you’re ready to become a thought leader, JoinArchimedes.com. (Ben, Colby, and I will teach you our exact system to go viral on LinkedIn.)

P.P.S. If you’re new to The Quiet Rich, hello! Read the 6 Habits of the Quiet Rich here, and read the rest of my newsletters. 💰