CONTEXT

A pattern I’ve noticed in charismatic people?

They don’t try to be interesting. They make the other person feel interesting.

How? There are 3 powerful steps to the SHR Method.

Make them feel Seen, Heard, and Remembered.

Let’s dive into each one…

METHOD

1. Seen

• Give a real compliment. The kind that sparks an interesting story they can tell you about…

• Chatting virtually? It could be the art hanging on their wall.

• In person? Maybe it’s something they’re wearing.

• Bonus points if you notice their “thing of pride” (that most others don’t ask about).

• Keep your eye contact strong, and your phone away. Show that you’re fully engaged and they have your complete attention. (It’s surprisingly rare).

2. Heard

• (Pre-meeting) Write down meaningful questions. Review previous messages you’ve exchanged so they’re fresh.

• (Mid-meeting) Recap their important points so they feel understood. “So what I’m hearing is…”; “I love that you said…”

• (Post-meeting) Always send a note. Always. It could be an email, text, ping, etc. If the meeting was work-related, list your big takeaways + next steps. (4-5 bullets is ideal).

• End it with something warm, like an inside joke.

3. Remembered

• Keep a list of tiny, personal details about them. Add more to the list every time you connect.

• People are always endeared when you remember their pet’s name, their child’s birthday, an upcoming vacation they’ve planned…

• Include these in your thank-you note, and keep them top-of-mind the next time you connect.

WHY IT WORKS

The secret (and paradox) of charisma?

It’s not about being interesting. It’s about being interested.

Try these 3 things, and you’ll instantly stand out from the rest.

“People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel.” — Maya Angelou

Until next week,

Jade

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